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I would rather be poor and happy than miserable most of life just to have material things.
The best times I can remember was when I was skint. The happiest people I have met were the poorest but they weren't poor at all, they found great joy in the simple things, dancing , laughing and just being together. You could feel their love and contentment.
 

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I was unemploied for about a year back in the 80s. We had about enough money to pay the house note, utilities and buy food as long as we didn't run the AC, never ate out, didn't buy new clothes except for the kid at flea markets and didn't eat meat except when we ate at y parents house. All of that said I spend an entire year with my kiddo. For the next 5 years I worked nights about 60 hours a week. I missed so much. Life actually got better when we gave up, lost our home amd moved a hundred miles away. Things just never got good again after the oil industry crashed.

I looked back on that year with my baby with a lot of regret that I missed the next many years working at night and then working out of town. when we moved I made up for that and she worked with/for me until she was 18. We had a lot of fun and I regained the closeness that i felt that i had lost. She must like us pretty well she moved her family in next door to us and we life sort of like one family in twl houses. I see my Grandbaby about every day and love it.

For me happpiness is having my family around me and still a part of my family.
 
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Not a career change as such, but in hindsight, I would have stayed in the Military for a few more years instead of leaving to be with my girlfriend at the time. Two years later I found her in bed with another man from work and that relationship came to an abrupt end.....

Wouldn't mind so much, but I was only a week away from moving over to Canada. Had a sponsor and a job at Crowfoot Camp all lined up and threw it all away for love. Oh, to be young again!

The flip-side to that though is, if I had stayed on that path, I most likely would not have (eventually) met my gorgeous wife of today and have the two wonderful boys I have now.

How the roads of our lives take us........
Titch2k6, I know at the time, it hurt a lot. But god forbid you married, that heartless, selfish woman... I have a few names to call her, but I don’t know what I’m allowed to say. Anyways I’m so happy you are with your beautiful wife, and boys. I just hope KARMA bit the other woman in the ASS! SMH... God Bless you and your beautiful family.
 
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I had a lot of fairly wealthy customers and it was sad as hell to me how many of them had kids that seemed to be miserable and there were a lot of suicides out of proportion to their numbers. I think that in order to be an heir to a fortune that your parents may not have had as much time for them as my parents did me or how much time I spent with my daughter and now my Granddaughter. Money doesn't buy happiness... Wealth for me was to always have a little more money than I needed and to have a three-digit balance in my bank account at the end of the month.
Beautifully said! Money absolutely doesn’t buy happiness, but a heart that’s filled with love, smiles, laughter memories no amount of money can buy. That’s priceless...We all need time to enjoy our loved ones.
 
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The best times I can remember was when I was skint. The happiest people I have met were the poorest but they weren't poor at all, they found great joy in the simple things, dancing , laughing and just being together. You could feel their love and contentment.
Sweet!
 

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well...I've had it both ways and although I have had great experiences when I was broke...$$$ bought me freedom to see the world and to have options..to say no to work but still know I wasn't gunna hafta worry about paying rent...and to be perfectly honest..I'd rather be crying in first class on Virgin Air flying to Paris to stay a week at a super boutique hotel on the Left bank, than in my trailer, in my bathtub that needs grouting....just..sayin'...
 
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I was unemploied for about a year back in the 80s. We had about enough money to pay the house note, utilities and buy food as long as we didn't run the AC, never ate out, didn't buy new clothes except for the kid at flea markets and didn't eat meat except when we ate at y parents house. All of that said I spend an entire year with my kiddo. For the next 5 years I worked nights about 60 hours a week. I missed so much. Life actually got better when we gave up, lost our home amd moved a hundred miles away. Things just never got good again after the oil industry crashed.

I looked back on that year with my baby with a lot of regret that I missed the next many years working at night and then working out of town. when we moved I made up for that and she worked with/for me until she was 18. We had a lot of fun and I regained the closeness that i felt that i had lost. She must like us pretty well she moved her family in next door to us and we life sort of like one family in twl houses. I see my Grandbaby about every day and love it.

For me happpiness is having my family around me and still a part of my family.
I totally agree. You have your heart in the right place Dan.
 
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I have taken on a new nom de plume to add to my long list of plumes. "Pearl Stiletto" or you can call me Pearl (it was actually my grandmother's name) I think it's a great name for a Tarantino character
 
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