I've been with my husband for 8 years, but it wasn't until the last 1 that I finally started telling him! He said he already knew, and it's part of the reason he loves me. Now I tell him EVERYTHING. And that feels good. It's too bad that you have to worry about people being afraid, etc. Other than him, there's no one who hears all of it. The stories I could tell would have this thread run for ions.