as others have said, everyone grieves differently, in their own way. some are more emotional, some not so much. can also depend on the relationship, closeness, etc.... theres no rulebook on how you should feel or act, whether you must shed tears or not. some ppl dwell on the death more than the life, i dont want to be remembered for when or how i died, but more for how i lived......if everyone gathers and cries it will be boring, i hope someone stands and says, "hey remember when he......." and everyone laughs...........