Paul, you brought up a few things, but I really liked what you said about shyness & what you do/did to address it. And what's cooler, the way you discuss it. That's positive self management despite fears.
Lemme 'splain.
Years ago, Mike Tyson spoke about being terrified going into the ring. Yup. Yesiree.
After that I was having discussions with lots of friends about fear, and what you really felt like doing those big life events. It was like Iron Mike just told us it was OK to talk about fear.
I confided to a guy I've known 30+ years that a psychology professor once called me the 'most confident unconfident man ' , he ever met.
Ok, that gets some weird combination of trophies & trouble. Triumph and humiliation. Lots of dropped balls seem to tip the scales.
But somehow the sports were played and the girls were kissed. Papers were graded. Money made, $ lost.
Did real good sometimes, fell flat on my face others.
The point is, inner Barney Fife is a good guy and can be tamed - just don't take it personally. That for me took time. Still does.
Lemme 'splain.
Years ago, Mike Tyson spoke about being terrified going into the ring. Yup. Yesiree.
After that I was having discussions with lots of friends about fear, and what you really felt like doing those big life events. It was like Iron Mike just told us it was OK to talk about fear.
I confided to a guy I've known 30+ years that a psychology professor once called me the 'most confident unconfident man ' , he ever met.
Ok, that gets some weird combination of trophies & trouble. Triumph and humiliation. Lots of dropped balls seem to tip the scales.
But somehow the sports were played and the girls were kissed. Papers were graded. Money made, $ lost.
Did real good sometimes, fell flat on my face others.
The point is, inner Barney Fife is a good guy and can be tamed - just don't take it personally. That for me took time. Still does.