I've always wondered why some spirits don't cross over until my friend died not long ago. He was a hoarder and just couldn't leave all his possessions behind, mostly valuable antiques and Harley Davidsons he had collected, all covered in dust and cobwebs. I told him that he doesn't need them any more and a couple of days later he had crossed over and had finally found happiness which he rarely had in this realm. He never contacted me after that.
My buddy was very angry in the last years of his life. I believe that anger kept him stuck until he finally crossed over. We had a long conversation during one of the visitations and reminded me of old times. It always seemed like i went to visit him until he 'popped up and drove me away from another place i didn't belong'. He was far happier that time and loved showing off his new War Wagon (truck) and family. We spent what seemed like a full day together and only saw him one more time. Earthly troubles can hold people in limbo but, i wonder if we tether ourselves to them and after they pass away, we can delay the process. The anger never made sense to me in the beginning until i really thought about it. I think some of the anger was because i couldn't let him move on until we hashed it out. Maybe in the end i did help him? If so, he returned the favor by helping me and upon finally letting him go, he has moved on to better, happier things. The last time i saw John, Jimmy was there also. I believe the last act was John helping Jimmy move on and help me come to terms with their deaths. I have not 'seen' either of them since. Incredible sequence of events that not only left me stunned, but finally the three of us at peace.
I wonder what it is about the spiritual connection between mates, maybe some ancient tribal bond that continues past this life ?
Best friends tend to get into the muck together more than just a passer-by-friend. That deeper bond has to carry through to the next life and beyond.
That's where the 'soul group' comes into play, i imagine. I have met people i have not become close friends with but, there is still an uncanny familiarity nonetheless.
