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As most of you know, I have a son who is high function autistic. It's often hard to explain what happens to someone with autism when they become overwhelmed, have an "episode" or "meltdown". The most amazing moment I've seen to describe it, and how to help someone having this happen, was broadcast on a reality show...Survivor. Take a moment to see this amazing and beautiful moment when someone did exactly the right thing.

 
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Debi said:
As most of you know, I have a son who is high function autistic. It's often hard to explain what happens to someone with autism when they become overwhelmed, have an "episode" or "meltdown". The most amazing moment I've seen to describe it, and how to help someone having this happen, was broadcast on a reality show...Survivor. Take a moment to see this amazing and beautiful moment when someone did exactly the right thing.

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I just saw this post.
When I was a police officer I had a 2nd gig at a very prestigious school for children with autism. I started just as armed security...not for the kids,but for outside threats! Well it turned out I had a connection with the kids. Even low functioning and violent kids were perfect for me. I saw them do the most amazing things ,but i also saw them melt down. I became the go to when I was there to calm them.
They were all amazing kids! I really enjoyed working there!
 
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I just saw this post.
When I was a police officer I had a 2nd gig at a very prestigious school for children with autism. I started just as armed security...not for the kids,but for outside threats! Well it turned out I had a connection with the kids. Even low functioning and violent kids were perfect for me. I saw them do the most amazing things ,but i also saw them melt down. I became the go to when I was there to calm them.
They were all amazing kids! I really enjoyed working there!
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I too worked with many autistic kids over the years working in the juvenile system. It can take a small act to turn around a chaotic situation if one knows what to do. Good advice here Debi.
 
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Debi said:
As most of you know, I have a son who is high function autistic. It's often hard to explain what happens to someone with autism when they become overwhelmed, have an "episode" or "meltdown". The most amazing moment I've seen to describe it, and how to help someone having this happen, was broadcast on a reality show...Survivor. Take a moment to see this amazing and beautiful moment when someone did exactly the right thing.

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I didn’t realize you had a son living with autism!

My husband has high functioning autism as well. He’s absolutely brilliant in many ways - but man, the challenges it can bring to a relationship are pretty unique.
 
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I am autistic and so is hubby, lol.
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You probably understand more than most then!! I wish there were more resources for love & relationships geared towards those in neurodiverse relationships. I’ve considered making my own resource site to this address the need.

It seems like most advice pieces are written towards people who a bit lower functioning OR written to the neurotypical partner - expecting them to take the role of adapter completely without any compromise.
 
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LostSocks said:
You probably understand more than most then!! I wish there were more resources for love & relationships geared towards those in neurodiverse relationships. I’ve considered making my own resource site to this address the need.

It seems like most advice pieces are written towards people who a bit lower functioning OR written to the neurotypical partner - expecting them to take the role of adapter completely without any compromise.
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I have found this approach equally frustrating when it comes to pieces written for issues in a marriage with neurodiverse partners. As you say, it is always assumed that one partner is neurotypical. My husband belongs to MENSA, but struggles with other areas in life, as do I. And as the saying goes, if you've met one autistic, you've met one autistic. All are not the same.
 
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Going to add on here. My middle son was just finally diagnosed on the spectrum. He's 48 and a late diagnosis, but I've seen the signs for years. He's another MENSA autistic but the actual diagnosis has helped him understand himself. The good news is his younger brother shares a few of his characteristics so it's been a good support team effort here.

I agree with you both that support for adults on the spectrum is difficult to find out there. I hope both of you ladies will feel free to share some of what you know here with others.
 
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7Critter said:
I believe that autism is a spectrum and that many on this forum have a touch of it. I include myself.
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Critter, knowing you as I do, I agree. I also know you have found a beautiful way to express yourself here and have added a special touch to the forum! You also understand techie stuff.. thank God! lol We'd be lost without you here!
 
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