I understand, but we all have to accept each other’s beliefs. He may not be in the same place you are. So it’s up to you to handle the situation as best you can in love not anger. If you let these events cause marital problems it will only give power to the negative. Stay in love and work out the situation.That's the conclusion I'm now coming to, just never really shared it, just to my mum. With it all going on and having others witness it kind of validated what I've been dealing with. Love the hubs to bits, but he just shrugs everything off and even if he can't come up with a rational explanation will just go, what can you do. Has been quite frustrating over the years.