Did my dead best friend talk to me?

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Hi guys... I'm kinda new to this website so please bare with me... I needed to put this out there, for my own sanity if nothing else. I think this is an appropriate place - because it's to do with my best friend who died last Summer.

A bit of back story.

My best friend of 15 years, Matthew, he died really suddenly and quite violently. He had suffered from mental health issues for quite some time, but ironically it wasn't that what killed him. A freak accident caused him to fall from his flat window and he suffered pretty severe head trauma. His parents decided to turn his life support off a day later as he would never recover, and that was the end of it.

It's taken me a long time to come to terms with it all, because I was the last person he spoke to.
Growing up we always said whichever one of us died first, we would come back and haunt the other. And at first I was angry with him, because I just didn't 'feel' him around, it was like he was just gone, like he never existed. And I've always been one to believe that when you die, you go somewhere, a person like him just couldn't disappear into nothing, you know?

So I guess you could say in some ways I've been looking for it, or reading into things,because I desperately miss him. I talk to him all the time at night, and I write about him in my diary a lot too, because I'm scared of forgetting him... Recently though, I've read up about something called "Automatic writing", which is basically calling out to whomever be there, explaining your intentions, that you want to try to talk through pen and paper, closing your eyes, holding the pen, maybe try to meditate whilst thinking of that person, and just seeing what happens.

Today I finally plucked up the courage to try, at first I just felt stupid... but then I really tried, I played some of his favorite music, I sat on my bed and told him my intentions. I immediately went absolutely freezing cold, and in my mind I could see him, smiling, brushing my hair behind my ear. I could feel his fingers, and his breath. I began to cry, because I wished it was real. After what felt like hours but in reality was only 5 minutes, I opened my eyes and found that I had written something on my notepad "through" him. Or him through me?

Once I can figure out how to upload photos I will post it, but it looks to me like he wrote 'Love', or 'Leave' ?

I know how crazy this sounds.... I feel bonkers just writing it down. But it felt so real. Was it really him or just grief? Can anybody relate?
 
Hi KmT, and welcome to the PNF. First and foremost, my condolences on the loss of your friend. I'm not the right person to comment on automatic writing or communications with the deceased, but I can promise you will receive informed opinions and advice here from caring people.
 
Hi guys... I'm kinda new to this website so please bare with me... I needed to put this out there, for my own sanity if nothing else. I think this is an appropriate place - because it's to do with my best friend who died last Summer.

A bit of back story.

My best friend of 15 years, Matthew, he died really suddenly and quite violently. He had suffered from mental health issues for quite some time, but ironically it wasn't that what killed him. A freak accident caused him to fall from his flat window and he suffered pretty severe head trauma. His parents decided to turn his life support off a day later as he would never recover, and that was the end of it.

It's taken me a long time to come to terms with it all, because I was the last person he spoke to.
Growing up we always said whichever one of us died first, we would come back and haunt the other. And at first I was angry with him, because I just didn't 'feel' him around, it was like he was just gone, like he never existed. And I've always been one to believe that when you die, you go somewhere, a person like him just couldn't disappear into nothing, you know?

So I guess you could say in some ways I've been looking for it, or reading into things,because I desperately miss him. I talk to him all the time at night, and I write about him in my diary a lot too, because I'm scared of forgetting him... Recently though, I've read up about something called "Automatic writing", which is basically calling out to whomever be there, explaining your intentions, that you want to try to talk through pen and paper, closing your eyes, holding the pen, maybe try to meditate whilst thinking of that person, and just seeing what happens.

Today I finally plucked up the courage to try, at first I just felt stupid... but then I really tried, I played some of his favorite music, I sat on my bed and told him my intentions. I immediately went absolutely freezing cold, and in my mind I could see him, smiling, brushing my hair behind my ear. I could feel his fingers, and his breath. I began to cry, because I wished it was real. After what felt like hours but in reality was only 5 minutes, I opened my eyes and found that I had written something on my notepad "through" him. Or him through me?

Once I can figure out how to upload photos I will post it, but it looks to me like he wrote 'Love', or 'Leave' ?

I know how crazy this sounds.... I feel bonkers just writing it down. But it felt so real. Was it really him or just grief? Can anybody relate?
Hi hon and yes, many of us can relate. First, I want to tell you that I believe that those who cross over don't do a lot of contact simply because they are safe and moving on as they should on the other side. It's those left behind that have problems letting go and moving on most times. It's difficult to trust and believe, especially when we are in deep grief, that the soul continues on. But, it is my belief it does.

Now, to automatic writing. First, realize that you actually may be pulling someone back just to give you comfort and interrupting their own soul progression. You need to consider if it is now time to let them move on and you move on yourself. Grieving takes time, and everyone does it differently, but automatic writing requires some basic safety rules to be sure you are actually contacting the person you think you are. And there is no way to guarantee that is actually happening. There are many entities out there, and you could possibly end up with an attachment of something dark. It's a risk...a rather big one.

I'm so sorry for your loss, but try to remember the gifts that the person left behind for you. Good memories, happy moments, and would he not want you to live your life now? Just things to ask yourself before you continue with trying to make contact.
 
I feel incredibly selfish now because I never really thought of it that way.... That he was potentially at peace and I could be disturbing him... and your right, it could be anybody. Thankyou for your guidance and kindness <3 x
 
Can anybody relate?
Almost to a tee.My young brother died some years ago at 23,we were very close.We had both experienced a lot of paranormal stuff, alone and together.At his passing he came to me saying it's OK,I found out he died a couple of hours after his message to me.A couple of days later I thought to write a poem about his life,I swear the pen was writing itself with me holding it and ended up with a funny and honest poem with aspects of his life that I never knew but could believe.I knew nothing of other things coming through at that stage of my life.I didn't call him to this it just happened and I'm sure it was him just by the accuracy and his crazy humour.Don't feel bad about calling to your friend,you didn't know.If he needs to contact you he will on his own time and I'm sure he's watching out and over you till you meet again.You sound a nice friend,welcome to the forum Km.
 
Welcome Km. Debi answered your question perfectly in my opinion. My sincere condolences on the loss of your friend. I too believe life goes on after this. You will meet again someday.

welcome to the forum.
 
Hi and welcome to the group. Don't feel bad. He returned to you because he loves you and wanted to comfort you. He did this because he needed to do it before he could pass into his next stage. Your suffering called him to you. Accept his love and understand that he wants you to heal and move on in your life. What you can do for him is rejoice in your memories and rest assured that you will encounter him again. He is not lost he is just away. Move on now and he will move on but love is eternal and never dies. When the time is right he will come to you again but not in this way. Life is eternal. Energy can be neither destroyed or lost but only transformed and moved around. Love is much the same.
 
Ah that made me cry... thankyou... I hope he will too. Xx
 
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