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More prayers for my dad. He fell the other day and he's becoming increasingly forgetful. My siblings and I have had to repeat ourselves much more than just once. His house is a mess, and he has ZERO motivation. I'm no fool but he's just given up on life. We're at a loss, we're all stressed, and we don't have a single CLUE on how to proceed. I'm his Power of Attorney and I'm most likely going to have to do something I really don't wish to do and take drastic measures.

He owns this LD franchise and currently has four routes and sooner or later, I'm going to have to call a meeting between myself, the other three employees, the Regional and District Sales manager. He's going to be forced to relinquish his business and we're going to try to move him into a smaller home and adopt out two of his five dogs. I know he loves them to death, but they're really making a mess of things. They're having numerous accidents that I've been going over to clean up or it will just sit, and I can't always make it over there. He also hoards.

My mom has been gone for six years this Sunday and we all still miss her like you wouldn't believe. I hate what he's going through more than anything, and while she told me to keep an eye on him, I can't help but to feel like I have failed him. I should have stuck my foot up his butt about physical therapy last year, but he's so thick skulled, I honestly don't know what I can or could have done. I know this isn't really my fault, but I feel beaten and so does my brother.

But at this point in time, I’m still at a loss on what to do. I’m just not ready for this.
Sorry to hear about this worsening situation, I've been where you are...twice. As his PoA, however, you must accept with authority comes responsibility. I'll pray for you and your Dad, but I'd also recommend you proactively seek the assistance of the various local senior support services, public and private, who can help both of you through this process. If you'd like to discuss this on PM, feel free to contact me.
 
More prayers for my dad. He fell the other day and he's becoming increasingly forgetful. My siblings and I have had to repeat ourselves much more than just once. His house is a mess, and he has ZERO motivation. I'm no fool but he's just given up on life. We're at a loss, we're all stressed, and we don't have a single CLUE on how to proceed. I'm his Power of Attorney and I'm most likely going to have to do something I really don't wish to do and take drastic measures.

He owns this LD franchise and currently has four routes and sooner or later, I'm going to have to call a meeting between myself, the other three employees, the Regional and District Sales manager. He's going to be forced to relinquish his business and we're going to try to move him into a smaller home and adopt out two of his five dogs. I know he loves them to death, but they're really making a mess of things. They're having numerous accidents that I've been going over to clean up or it will just sit, and I can't always make it over there. He also hoards.

My mom has been gone for six years this Sunday and we all still miss her like you wouldn't believe. I hate what he's going through more than anything, and while she told me to keep an eye on him, I can't help but to feel like I have failed him. I should have stuck my foot up his butt about physical therapy last year, but he's so thick skulled, I honestly don't know what I can or could have done. I know this isn't really my fault, but I feel beaten and so does my brother.

But at this point in time, I’m still at a loss on what to do. I’m just not ready for this.
Wow, i'm sorry to hear about this LW. I am coming into that phase myself and i am not ready. Your family will be in my thoughts as you wade through this. None of us want to experience this with our loved ones, but it is something we keep in the back of our mind knowing it may happen and we must be strong and do what we feel is right. Don't beat yourself up. Just be there for your dad to the best of your ability and what you feel is right deep down. That is all we can do. Prayers and good thoughts to you and yours LW.
 
He also drinks more than he probably should. Last year, he was diagnosed with a condition (and unfortunately, I've forgotten which) but it's a wall that grows around the heart muscle and alcohol is one of the causes. He's also currently out of his anxiety meds and the withdrawals aren't pretty. He asked for four Bottlenecks to ease the pain. I've offered him CBD and even Cannabis to help with his stress, pain and anxiety but he refuses.

I saw him twice today. I fed and watered his dogs, checked his mail and gave him his meds. He's still able to get around, but he's on his walker. While there, I was vigilant and made sure that they weren't any wet spots anywhere I knew he'd go throughout the day, but we feel that he'll never be the same again. It pains me more than I can put into words to see the man that raised me and my last parent throw in the towel when he told me to never do that myself when I was down.
 
Thanks, everyone. It was more of the same, but I stuck around for a little longer today. He asked me the date at least four times in five minutes and he's having trouble writing, but I think part of it pertains to his withdrawals. I checked the floors once more to make sure his path was clear, and he asked me to stay with him while he ate and make sure he got to bed safely.

There's a little more, but I can't quite put it into words at the moment. In short, he's starting to alienate my two siblings.
 
Thanks, everyone. It was more of the same, but I stuck around for a little longer today. He asked me the date at least four times in five minutes and he's having trouble writing, but I think part of it pertains to his withdrawals. I checked the floors once more to make sure his path was clear, and he asked me to stay with him while he ate and make sure he got to bed safely.

There's a little more, but I can't quite put it into words at the moment. In short, he's starting to alienate my two siblings.
Wolf, he needs to see a neurologist to be evaluated. There may be more going on than what you think. From a medical viewpoint, I have some concerns with it being a bit more than just withdrawal or giving up. You are describing symptoms that have me concerned for more going on there. Get a referral from his primary care doc and get a complete work up.
 
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My daughter's caregiver is missing. He went out and left his phone behind. It's been over 48 hours and my daughter has no one to help her; she lives in OR. She called the police and they said that he had been in the hospital with a head injury; for some reason they discharged him when he couldn't say where he lived! Please pray for his safe return.
 
My daughter's caregiver is missing. He went out and left his phone behind. It's been over 48 hours and my daughter has no one to help her; she lives in OR. She called the police and they said that he had been in the hospital with a head injury; for some reason they discharged him when he couldn't say where he lived! Please pray for his safe return.
They discharged him on his own? Nobody was there to take him home?
 
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