Very true. We naturally remember what hurts us. It may be a survival thing. I think it’s something we can change as we become conscious of it.
I know you can do as much good for people as you like 24/7 but they will still label you for the one bad thing you did, humans seem to remember this until you die then you were the greatest and forgiven.
others labeling you is their lack of forgiving or just unwilling to fully forgive. that is their burden to carry, not yours. dont allow them to cloud your thoughts and ability to forgive and let go. as long as you can honestly forgive then you can move on unencumbered by that weight of anger, hatred, jealousy, etc... that is fed by such thoughts and feelings. dont allow the circle to continue. live your life and let others think what they will. they have to come to their truths on their own timeline. move on and do and be the best you can from that point on. as long as you know deep down who you are, is all that matters. every choice we make, every relationship we have, every group we associate with forms who we are. i could go on but im sure a book isnt what anyone wants to read, lol... just practice true forgiveness and seeing the world with a clear and open mind. its not always easy, and a lot of mistakes will always be made but that is also what the test is all about. how those mistakes are handled and what kind of person you become afterwards.I know you can do as much good for people as you like 24/7 but they will still label you for the one bad thing you did, humans seem to remember this until you die then you were the greatest and forgiven.
Great advice as always Paul except the book thing, you really should write one and when and if you do, put me down for a copy please.
We've all been labeled as one thing or another through out our lives and if I may, putting a label on anyone for one bad deed is human, but also a load of ya know what.I know you can do as much good for people as you like 24/7 but they will still label you for the one bad thing you did, humans seem to remember this until you die then you were the greatest and forgiven.
This is a good question. My dad passed last October and when I think of him it depends on my mood or what ever has come up at the time whether I remember the good times or the bad. I enjoy telling stories and remembering the fun things I did with my dad or the funny things he did or said, but sometimes I just remember how he hurt all of us with his addictions. We can't control our emotions, but we can control how long we wallow in the thoughts that keep us feeling down or angry.
